Another step to happiness: count your blessings!

I have written about some of the research into happiness and advised against becoming a square peg in a round hole.  I now want to examine an old cliché: count your blessings.

It is important to remember that a saying becomes a cliché through being overused.  That is usually because it has been found to be true or helpful over the years.  That is certainly the case here.  Studies have shown that people find it makes them happier and healthier if they literally count their blessings from time to time.

This does not always come easily.  It can become a habit to moan about the weather, the Government, the boss, the referee or some other easy target for our discontent.  Sharing our negative thoughts often leads to expressions of agreement from those around us, making us feel better, temporarily out of camaraderie.  However, in the long term, this seems to build up a negative view of the World, which is depressing.

This thinking is encouraged by the media.  Good news is usually less newsworthy than bad news.  You cannot blame the press too much.  A thousand aircraft making successful flights are less likely to be of interest than one aircrash.  A thousand social workers, doctors, teachers, priests or even politicians working hard and doing a good job are less likely to sell newspapers than one making a big mistake or being found to be corrupt.

We cannot blame the media, but we need to be careful in interpreting what we read or hear.  To count your blessings means to remind yourself occasionally of all the good things in the World and in your life.  If you have reasonable complaints about your job, be happy that you have one.  If you have several aches and pains, be glad we have the NHS.  If you have criticisms of the Government, remember that we have the right to protest, to question and ultimatelty to vote them out.

I am not saying we should look at the World through rose-tinted spectacles.  We should just stop doing the opposite.

Can we trust the Police?

Sir Bernard Hogan-Howe, the head of the Metropolitan Police, has called for the public to trust the Police, especially those using firearms.  He is understandably concerned that officers will not volunteer for firearms duties if they are afraid of being prosecuted and/or sued if they shoot anyone.

I can well understand the negative response this appeal is likely to elicit from much of the public.  There have not only been several incidents where police officers have apparently shot innocent people.  More worrying, to me, are all the occasions when the Police lied as they tried to cover up what may have been an honest mistake.  Not only regarding firearms.  Hillsborough comes to mind.

You might expect a writer of crime fiction to defend the Police.  Or you might remember that I have said that my hero is not a copper.  He is an accountant.  Like all amateur detectives, his success depends on the Constabulary’s failure.  If the Police got it right all the time, there would be no role for amateurs.  Allow me some licence!

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So you may well ask, whether I have a poor opinion of the Police in real life, whether in detecting crime or in managing firearms safely.  Let me be honest.  Somebody should be.  The Police Force is a large organisation, whether you think of it in national or local terms.  Like all large organisations, it consists of hundreds or thousands of individuals.

In my experience, dealing with banks, insurance companies, local authorities, the NHS, various charities, the Church of England and other denominations, one thing has been apparent: not all their employees are the same.  Of course, training, procedures and culture affect behaviour, but I have encountered a wide variety of people in all these organisations. Some have been brilliant and a credit to their employers.  Others have managed to do a decent job in difficult circumstances.  Many have been inexperienced and would probably improve in time.  Some were in the wrong job.  A few should have been locked up.  Actually, I can think of some who have been.

Why should the Police be very different?

As a Risk Management Consultant, I have often spoken of the reputational risk.  It is as important to manage that as to manage the underlying physical risks.  My advice is to admit, apologise, learn the lessons and put right any systemic faults.  Where appropriate, compensate.  What is not good practice is to deny the facts or to defend the indefensible.

Sir Bernard should know that trust cannot be commanded.  It has to be earned.  The Police have a long way to go.  But they could start by being more honest.  I want to trust them.  I want to be able to.  Help me, Sir Bernard.

The way to enjoying life is to…enjoy life!

I am having another look at how to be happy, drawing on a lot of modern research.  One of the most seemingly pointless pieces of advice is to enjoy life.

You could well say that if you are not happy you cannot enjoy life.  It reminds me of the old joke about a general who had a notice put up in an army camp saying ‘Happy Christmas.  You will enjoy it.  That’s an order.’

This advice is not as silly as it seems.  We so often fail to notice the pleasant things in life.  We certainly do not always savour them.  We are too focused on other things, such as our complaints.

I am thinking of the little things that can make all the difference – if you let them.  A nice meal, a lovely view, a flower in your garden, or someone else’s, a piece of music, a TV programme you like.  Try to consciously notice these things.  Say to yourself, ‘that was good!’ perhaps out loud, or even to someone else.  You might help them to get more out of their day.

Do not remember only the annoying or disappointing things in life.  Over a period, enjoying life can become a habit.  An enjoyable one.

Open The Book Week 12th to 19th February

One thing I love, apart from writing, is taking part in Open The Book.

What is that?

It is part of the Bible Society’s national Open The Book project which has been running for some ten years and now involves 14,000 volunteers in 2,500 schools throughout the country.  Children in primary schools  are hearing and seeing stories from the Bible every week, read and acted by groups of volunteers from a dozen different churches.

Why?

I agree with this statement from the Bible Society.

Today many children could miss out on the great classic stories from the Bible – Noah, Daniel and the life of Jesus could be closed chapters if youngsters don’t get an opportunity to engage with the Bible.  That’s why Open The Book is so important.  Volunteers use drama, mime, props and costumes to present the stories in lively and informative ways.

So what?

I remember a few years ago hearing Jeremy Paxman on the radio.  He said he was amazed at the lack of knowledge of the Bible by otherwise well educated young people, such as those on University Challenge.  He commented that, regardless of your faith, the Bible is an important part of our heritage, along with Shakespeare and Chaucer.  It has influenced our language, our laws, and our culture.  We should at least know what is in it, even if we want to move on away from it.  I quite agree.

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What is happening in Warrington?

So far Open The Book has been welcomed in five schools in West Warrington, involving 29 volunteers from 9 churches.  There are also groups in Appleton and Thelwall.  The latest school to join is Meadowside Primary in Orford, where the new team has made a good start but they need more volunteers.  Of course, if there were more volunteers in other parts of the town, more schools could have such presentations.

What about me?

I was one of the earliest volunteers in Warrington in 2014 when Rev. Paul Hockley of St Paul’s Penketh led a team of five from three churches to bring the stories to Penketh Primary.  I loved it from the start.  It is so simple and takes up only an hour a week, yet it is so rewarding.  You do not need any special skills or experience.  The material speaks for itself.

Want to know more?

Open The Book Week is from 12th to 19th February and it is a good time for schools, churches, parents or anyone to find out more from the Bible Society’s website: www.openthebook.net or from Linda Murdoch, co-ordinator of the West Warrington Team, on 01925 6637466.  Or just ask me.

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What do castles mean to you?

Many of us look on the castles which dot the landscape of much of Britain with pleasure and even pride.  They are part of our heritage.  Why not celebrate them?

There are some people in Wales who see the many castles in the Principality as symbols of English oppression.  Reminders of an unhappy past.  They were not built to defend Wales or its people, rather to keep them in their place.

It is worth pointing out that the castles of England and Wales were mostly built by the Normans, who used them to keep all of us in our place, apart from those around the coast that were to defend us from overseas enemies, mainly the French.  By the way, does that mean that they are an unwelcome symbol of anti-French sentiment?  I hope that even after Brexit, we will be able to maintain good relations with our neighbours across the Channel.

For many people in Wales, however, whether of Welsh or English ancestry, and even those of Irish, Scottish, Italian or Asian origins, the castles have come to be regarded as “ours” – just as our history belongs to us all, even the unpleasant bits.

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My hero, Frank, in the Accounting for Murder series of detective novels, is an Englishman settled in Cardiff and married to a Welsh woman born on a farm near Caerphilly, a town with a castle of its own with its leaning tower.  You do not need to go to Italy to see one.  Frank and his wife, Sian, both love Cardiff Castle as a symbol of their home city and its community.  It is not something that divides them.

This picture is from another watercolour by George Dolman.  It shows part of Cardiff Castle, seen from Castle Street, a familiar sight to most residents and visitors to the capital of the Principality.  It shows one of the many elements rebuilt in the Nineteenth Century in a quirky but fascinating and distinctive style.

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What is happening with my new book – Accounting for Murder: Double Entry?

I have almost finished writing Double Entry, which I hope will be the first in a series called Accounting for Murder.  I will review it once more before sending it to my copy editor, who will try to correct all my mistakes and make suggestions for improvements.  A big job, I expect.  Then I will have to do a lot of changes and send it back for proofreading.

I hope to publish it around Easter.

What is it going to be about?  It is a whodunnit and here are a few clues.

The hero is an accountant.  (Seriously!)  A private eye asks him to look for some assets that have conveniently disappeared just before a divorce case.  One thing leads to another, and he finds himself investigating a murder.

Most of the suspects are accountants, apart from the odd celebrity.  How could he be putting himself and his family in any danger?  How many murders will there be?  You will never think accountancy is boring after this.

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